Monday, May 04, 2009
been a while ...
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A woman gets on a bus with her baby. The bus driver says: "That's the ugliest baby that I've ever seen." The woman goes to the rear of the bus and sits down, face red, FUMING! She says to a man next to her, "That driver just insulted me!"
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The man says, "You go right up there and tell him off! Go ahead, I'll hold your monkey for you."
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anyway... funny shite :)
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I have not posted in a while, but like a bad rash, I always show back up eventually :)
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Life has been mad hectic... PLUS I have had a couple distractions ..
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I started falling for this guy who was just wrong for me. You know when you first meet someone that you click with, and pretty much all your free time is spent together. Yea well that's what happened. It was all bad, I knew it from the start and well ... I came to my senses. But it was fun.
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:)
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My blog, among other things suffered.
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A pic from a few days ago of me, my puppy (Kurt the cat terrorizer) and my best friend Nick

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I.look.demonic

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Other things in Jim's life.... oh yea my condo finally officially closed today.

I get my shweeeeeeeeeet check tomorrow :)

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the market is so crazy, so what if I had to come down like 4K and suffer 4 traumatic closing delays. I am just happy it's all over now. I miss the ability to take car loads of stuff to the condo dumpster over there but still ... I am really really happy right now, like Triple X Beer with shots of Rumpleminze happy. hehe

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I deserve it, or something

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I'll be back, eventually :)

Monday, April 13, 2009
insane woman....

BERLIN, Germany (CNN) -- A polar bear attacked a woman at Berlin Zoo Friday afternoon after she climbed a fence and jumped into its habitat during feeding time, police said Saturday.One adult polar bit her several times after she plunged into the moat, police said. Zoo workers tossed rescue rings toward the woman to hoist her out and distract polar bears swimming nearby, said Goerg Gebhard, a Berlin police officer.At one point the woman fell back into the water and was grabbed by a bear before she was eventually hoisted to safety."They saved her life," Gebhard told CNN.The woman was severely injured and was being treated at a hospital, police said. t's unclear why the woman entered the bear habitat.
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I'll tell you why she entered the bear habitat, shes.fucking.nuts
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I have never told anyone this before but I have nightmares
involving being mauled by a bear (usually it's a grizzly tho)
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moving right along...
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hopefully any of you who celebrate the joyous event
we christians call Easter had a good one!
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Actually mine was AMAZING
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it was just my sons and I, our first holiday together in my new house.
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I made ham, mashed potatoes, fresh green beans, eggplant (we're Italian) yams..
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cherry cheesecake and chocolate cream pie for dessert, and also ginger cookies
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we had a great time, they said it was the best easter they ever had
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aww.. that made me feel so amazing, because for me it WAS the best Easter ever
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Thursday, April 02, 2009

so the buyer for my condo is still trying to get financing after the original fell through. I am really getting irritated, it's not his fault but sheesh. He has an amazing credit score, is putting 10% down and has a great job. My realtor said if they won't loan to him then who WILL they loan too?
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times.is.tough
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we're now shooting for a closing on April 15th.
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My older son is leaving for Europe Saturday, and I get to drive him down to JFK. Yikes, the whole idea is frightening, not a big fan of driving in New York. I've driven to Kennedy before, but only to long term park and jump on my own flight. This time I have to short term park, walk him to a certain terminal, wait for the Youth Group reps to show up, see him off, find my car again, and hopefully make it out of the city and home. I have the worst habit of getting miserably lost, even with a GPS system. Ok don't laugh it's true.
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As long as I get him there on time I'm happy. Making it home in one piece without a detour through The Bronx or some other tourist friendly crime ridden part of New York, is no big deal. If I get break down, get mugged and stabbed to death so what, at least he made it to his flight.
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just kidding (hehe well sorta)
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Anybody out there in bloggerland ever short term park at JFK? What is the experience like?
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This guy I went on a couple dates with irks me. Not only is he way too loud and "colorful", but has this weird sort of ADD or something. It's like he doesn't listen to what you say. You start a sentince and half way through he's like "Oh yea, riiight". He also has the really irritating habit of replying to everything you say with "Right?" bleh....
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Did I mention there is NO chemistry on my part. Not even a twinge. Watching a movie together the other night he put his hand on my knee and I was not comfortable. just.not.into.him is an understatement. I don't even know if I can make a go at a friendship with this mary.
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I have tried to find something we have in common, but really can't. Nothing, zilch, nada...
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Maybe he has some interesting friends. He knows a lot of homos in the area, maybe he can introduce me to someone I actually have something in common with.
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Here's hoping...
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Anybody still participate in HNT?
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I am thinking about it for next week.
Monday, March 30, 2009
weekend....

So I had Friday off which was cool. Originally I took it off for the condo closing, which didn't happen. I had some day schtuff to take care of, so I just took it anyway. Amazing day, 60's (which is not too common yet here in Massachusetts) got heaps done. Even bought a couple new coins.
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Friday night was my 2nd date with the new guy. We went to a mexican place and then caught that new Nicholas Cage flic "Knowing"... It was ok, pretty decent until midway and then it got B-Movie cheesy. I won't spoil it, but it kinda reminded you of "Close Encounters" at the end. (I told him it was great, since he picked it out anyway)
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Saturday was laid back, another KILLER day in the 60's. Took the kids to the same Mexican restaurant I went to the night before (can't get enough I guess). Otherwise we didn't do much. Oh yea, I got into an email brawl with the ex wife. Those are soooo much fun! What bothers me is that she includes the kids in the brawl. My mother did that when I was a kid and from my perspective (back then) it was really awful. You are supposed to be angry with your father without really understanding why.. taking of course your mother's word (because you live with her) over any other.
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The arguement? (which is ridiculous in my opinion) My older son is leaving Saturday with a Youth Group for 10 days to London and Paris. My family and I took care of the cost ($4500) plus I took him to get his passport and will be giving him spending money. I asked her to do one thing, drive him to the airport in NYC (about a 2 1/2 hour drive). She wouldn't even do that much. So I emailed her outlining what MY contribution was and this was the least she could do.
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Her response?

1. Shove that $4500 up my ass she doesnt owe one thing for his trip because in the past "She's paid plenty"
(Yea ok, and I haven't contributed consistently for the past 1o years and THEN some..)
She keeps throwing in old child care bills from 1998 and copays from doctors. I guess my weekly contribution back then and now was for something else. She needs to get it in her thick head it's 50/50. And with the amount of money kids cost as they get older, I'll bet I've already spent in the past 2 years more than all those "extras" she tells me she carried alone.

2. If "I don't want to pay for my children I can stop anytime!!" LOL um ... where the hell is that coming from? She does this quite often. She spouts off that she's spent on this and that blah blah. But all I do is explain my contribution to this trip and ask her to do SOMETHING and she tells me if I don't want to contribute I can stop??? That's a great angle to come at me with! Actually not so much try again..

3. Get out of her life! (haha that's a good one. So realistic, when sharing two minor children. )I keep mulling this one over and over in my head and don't get what she means. As if I really am interested in being a part of her life. She is a nightmare, any part I may have played in her life directly ended the day I moved out. I fail to see how discussions over our children constitute my involvement in her life.

anyway... the kids are getting older now, and these "confrontations" should be less and less now.
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thank.god
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Yesterday the kids and I went to see Haunting in CT. Not too bad actually, much better than Knowing I thought.
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The date from Friday (and last week) came over last night and we hung out. We watched some stupid Julianne Moore movie where the whole world goes blind except her. not so good. I am not feeling the attraction to this guy. I keep trying but it's just not there. I think we will become friends, which is fine with me.
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That was my thrilling weekend.
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How was yours?
Thursday, March 26, 2009
my date....
I went on a date last night, the guy I was talking about in my last post. We met at a local Tavern, he ate, we talked. It was pretty cool. He's a lot more "gay-worldly" than I am. What I mean to say is that he belongs to a bunch of social groups in the area. I've never joined or attended a Gay social group. Might be interesting. I probably know half the people from when I used to go out years ago.
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I only have one long standing gay friend in my life these days. I kinda always wanted to make more, but could never figure out how. The bar scene is not exactly the place to go to meet friends. Forget online, like I said yesterday, apart from maybe Match.com they are all meat markets populated by sex maniacs and people who aren't quite who they say they are and usually a tad (*cough*) older and less attractive than their photos would lead you to believe.
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So at the very least I've made a new friend. And I suspect I will have dozens more by the time he's done with me. As far as chemistry with this guy I am on the fence. He's goodlooking enough, my age, very well educated ... I am just not sure if I am attracted to him yet. Maybe that will come later, and eh... if it doesn't like I said, he could become a good friend.
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Maybe I am being kinda picky I dunno. I don't think so tho. I really liked the last guy I dated, it's just that he lives in Boston and is really busy. I think we both got tired of the long distance thing. But damn... there was chemistry, almost more than I've experienced in the past.
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Wednesday, March 25, 2009
crazy week...
This has been a hellish week...
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I had a date (sorta) Monday night ...
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I should have known better I guess. Mhunt is not known for producing grounded interesting people who want to get to know you. It's all about getting you into bed. Sad. I was completely disappointed with the experience. Much like I have been disappointed with Match.com and Gay.com of late.
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Supposed to have another "date" this weekend. Eh.. I'm not feeling it from our phone conversation. Then there was that "please unlock" text I got last night out of the blue from the guy. Must have been thinking about me.. lol Not a good sign.
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Oh and the MOST exiting part of my week. The buyer for my Condo (which was set to close this coming Friday) has lost his financing!!! So much for Pre-Approval. The Credit Union backed out after the appraisal. Now he is scurrying around to find a local bank to write him a new loan. He thinks he found one (I won't hold my breath). They are shooting to close a week from Friday now. I haven't slept much the last few nights thinking about this mess.
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My realtor is a nightmare, so that isn't helping either. To get her on the phone is a major production. Yesterday she called me around 3:30 to tell me the buyer's financing fell through. I was at work and very busy, not able to answer my cell. I called her back 10 minutes later, she didn't answer her phone. I tried ALL NIGHT LONG, she didn't answer. All I got was a text from her once that she was in a meeting. I text her back to call me no matter how late. I never heard from her. This happens every time. She communicates through text. NOT acceptable. Like I said, nightmare.
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I need a valium, no wait, a big strong drink.
Saturday, March 21, 2009
Friends forever....


My cat and dog have lived together nearly a year now.
They "play" all the time like this. You would think they are killing each other.
She (Suede the cat) waits under the table for him (Kurt the dog) to walk by and pounces.
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I filmed a couple videos of their craziness...
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